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i am obsessed with today's post. i've been thinking a lot about how in quarantine i've become more intuitive & the only way i could really describe it was "feminine" but i wasn't sure if that was stereotyping. you put into solid words my thoughts that have been flowing through me for months & i literally had this "YESSSS" moment while reading so thank you for that :-) i think i also spent a lot of time in masculine, competitive energy, that now when i feel more in tune with feminine flowy energy, my mind seems to be scared of the change. but change is good, evolving is good, love this post and im so glad i read this today :-D
First off- gosh I love this entire project. You're an icon! And so is everyone else on here.
I've been super mean to myself by leaning almost entirely on my masculine energies to get me through living alone throughout this pandemic, but your content has served as a real good reminder to seek balance mindfully and intentionally - while being okay with not getting it all the time!
Thanks so much for this project! I can't wait to learn more from you and connect with everyone here.
my masculine energy has gotten me this far, but now it's started to hold me back. finding the balance has proven to be interesting but really fun and helpful at the same time
you're not alone in feeling this way, i've always let my masculine energy rule my being. in the ever-changing times, i've learnt that i can't survive if i don't let my female energy breathe and be included.
Today I decided to stay home and clean. I felt like I needed to take a mental break from school and all of the stress and cleaning feels like a mental declutter sometimes as well. I also just made myself some shrimp pasta, poured myself a glass of wine, turned on the April playlist, and just let myself sit and actually enjoy the food without feeling guilty for taking time for myself.
cleaning up, decluttering, throwing shit out of the house is the best thing to do when everything feels wrong/bad. i'ma do that this weekend if i get through this week sanely.
I agree with everyone so much. this is my favorite thing to do- i can feel the connection between a messy house and a messy mind. so happy you gave yourself that gift!
I've just joined the amazing corner project and I kid you not, I can't express my immense feeling of excitement enough for this and for what's to come. I AM READY.
Listening to leave the door open is a daily ritual now, I just wanna know how it still get BETTER every time I listen to it.
In terms of flow I feel like I have a hard time staying present. The older I get the more inclined I am to actively focus on the here and now instead of being worried about the past/future but it’s still a struggle. I’m constantly thinking things like “if I can just make it to next Tuesday then I can breathe” rather than thinking about how I can be productive or make things better for myself now. You made a good point about taking things small steps at a time, I tend to stress about everything I’m NOT doing instead of the little things I could be doing now. Definitely some good advice I’ll be taking with me going forward—thank you! I loved that feminine vs masculine energy part btw, SO cool to learn about.
that thought pattern is so ubiquitous with anxiety. it's almost like we're giving ourselves a finish line or a deadline- i would feel that way when i had way too much on my plate. i think a big lesson for me through that was learning what was realistic for me, my breaking point, and starting to celebrate the tiny wins even though it felt kinda dumb to make a "big deal" out of something that was as small as finally doing laundry but it really helped
I’m trying to get better at listening to myself and my body and feel what I need to feel moment to moment. As a fellow Aries (how we all doing this season) I’ve been being extra self critical, especially since we’ve been in a pandemic for over a year now. My brain has had extra time to overthink every little thing, and I’m trying to find a way to give myself grace and unlearn my perfectionism tendencies (if anyone has any tips PLEASE help a girl out 🙏). Sending you and everyone else here love as we try to get better every day 💞
working on a full video for perfectionism!! i think talking to yourself like you would talk to your best friends is a really helpful tool you can start using instantly. whenever you find yourself being self critical, pretend like it's your friend that is confiding in you. how would you respond to them?
Thanks! Here’s the playlist I’ve got so far. It’s a work in progress haha. Sauce didn’t quite fit the vibe I was going for, but it was perfect for one of my other playlists!
I’ve been very anxious on how the future’s going to be and this month’s challenge is very timely. It’s always been difficult for me to go with the flow but I’m so excited to finally try this and to tap more on my feminine energy. Rooting for everyone! 💛
1. Vienna has been on my replay playlist lately as well. 2. My life has felt very out of control so I try to take control of the small things I can because some major things in my life are out of my control. Also trying to accept that idea of being out of control is key for me
The universe is confirming my decision today. Decided to take the day off from any work and just go with the flow of the day. Have no plans, I'm still in my pjs, and I'm overall enjoying myself. 100% with you on this month's practice.
Oh my gosh I so needed this today. Work ended up giving me work to do without telling me it’s due Wednesday and I’m like freaking out and upset that this happened. However, I just need to go with the flow and get it done.
I have a habit of living my life wading in the waters of "wounded feminine" energy. I crave the structure that comes from masculine energy, the logic & the thoughtful. But perhaps what I am truly craving is living an authentic "feminine energy" vs the wounded that has been the undercurrent. I feel like this has been the "understanding of self" and path of emotional/spiritual growth I have been on.
i would love to hear more if you're comfortable with sharing. i'm not too familiar with wounded feminine, maybe where i come from is the wounded masculine
I love sharing.. I tend to overshare because I crave vulnerability so much and want to lead with compassion. I grew up in a tricky household (not dysfunctional but tricky-words I found through therapy). My ego, which learns from that wounded part, leads me to think that others are consistently talking about me, that they are judging me, that I am not enough and if I don't "bring enough to the table" they wont love me. I struggle with thinking everything negative thing that happens is my fault even if it has nothing to do with me (spoiler it rarely does) but that lead to a lot of self hate and zero self worth. I have been doing a lot of work on that inner child and when I think about what she was lacking I understand what my ego is protecting. I had to learn/am learning that I am enough for no other reason than that I am enough for myself. I do not need to "prove" myself to anyone and it is no ones "job" in this world to love me but my own. I honestly spent 3 years really learning that and not just saying the words and willing them to be true but putting in concrete work so that I was making them true. I had to prove to myself that I loved myself and show up for myself through action. I was always waiting for others to teach me, or better yet, be something I could mimic. I think in finding my feminine energy I am learning what my voice sounds like, what healthy boundaries are and I don't see my kindness as being taken advantage of because I am learning to trust my instinct when I say "yes". When I started therapy it was because I was 30 and felt like I had no clue who I was and fuck if that wasn't for damn sure. I fall short but I understand what I am healing and I think that is such a big part of it. Really asking one selves "why/where am I broken?" and then working on giving that to oneself. ... told ya I overshare :)
I appreciate all this Megan. This is definitely one of the best things I've ever subscribed to. And the 70s aesthetic is amazing. From the style, free spirits, the badass muscle cars, rock 'n' roll, outlaw country, and the big ol' collars lol. But I'm definitely taking notes from these posts.
This seems like some sort of insanely happy coincidence, but I'm producing and directing a virtual showcase with my friend called "Grow as you Go" and it of course focuses on themes of 'going with the flow' (which is some of the literature we use promoting it). The whole thing is a chance for creatives to reflect on the past year spent in the pandemic by channeling that experience into whatever creative channel they like. I think the pandemic has made as all more accepting and understanding of change by literally shoving us into a time head first, fearless (iykyk) to a time where it was literally impossible to know what was going to happen next and we just had to learn to be okay with it, no other option.
It's funny you mentioned really resonating with the 70s because I've been resonating with the 70s/80s vibes right now, too? In fashion, in decor, in music, in everything. It's kind of crazy. Maybe we're all in tune with something bigger right now - how cool :)
Alsoooooo Silk Sonic is EV. RY. THING. Friggen incredible.
So happy to see you vibing and living intuitively and authentic to yourself. It's really been showing, especially in recent videos. It's insane how you can really just feel the comfort and genuineness through the screen. Love this for you!!!!!!
oooooh I just want to add that if absolutely anyone here is interested in being a part of this showcase, please head to our Instagram, @GrowAsWeGo21 ! We've got a Google Form where you can pop the details of what you'd like to share! Just putting it out there :)
i am obsessed with today's post. i've been thinking a lot about how in quarantine i've become more intuitive & the only way i could really describe it was "feminine" but i wasn't sure if that was stereotyping. you put into solid words my thoughts that have been flowing through me for months & i literally had this "YESSSS" moment while reading so thank you for that :-) i think i also spent a lot of time in masculine, competitive energy, that now when i feel more in tune with feminine flowy energy, my mind seems to be scared of the change. but change is good, evolving is good, love this post and im so glad i read this today :-D
First off- gosh I love this entire project. You're an icon! And so is everyone else on here.
I've been super mean to myself by leaning almost entirely on my masculine energies to get me through living alone throughout this pandemic, but your content has served as a real good reminder to seek balance mindfully and intentionally - while being okay with not getting it all the time!
Thanks so much for this project! I can't wait to learn more from you and connect with everyone here.
- Kush
my masculine energy has gotten me this far, but now it's started to hold me back. finding the balance has proven to be interesting but really fun and helpful at the same time
you're not alone in feeling this way, i've always let my masculine energy rule my being. in the ever-changing times, i've learnt that i can't survive if i don't let my female energy breathe and be included.
a delicate balance and an engaging conversation between both sides of us at all times!
Today I decided to stay home and clean. I felt like I needed to take a mental break from school and all of the stress and cleaning feels like a mental declutter sometimes as well. I also just made myself some shrimp pasta, poured myself a glass of wine, turned on the April playlist, and just let myself sit and actually enjoy the food without feeling guilty for taking time for myself.
cleaning up, decluttering, throwing shit out of the house is the best thing to do when everything feels wrong/bad. i'ma do that this weekend if i get through this week sanely.
what a beautiful way to end the week and bring in the relaxing, clear mind of the new week
Cleaning up is my fave way to clear my mind, I feel you🙌🏻 Especially when it’s right before you start your week too, that’s the best.
I agree with everyone so much. this is my favorite thing to do- i can feel the connection between a messy house and a messy mind. so happy you gave yourself that gift!
I've just joined the amazing corner project and I kid you not, I can't express my immense feeling of excitement enough for this and for what's to come. I AM READY.
Listening to leave the door open is a daily ritual now, I just wanna know how it still get BETTER every time I listen to it.
In terms of flow I feel like I have a hard time staying present. The older I get the more inclined I am to actively focus on the here and now instead of being worried about the past/future but it’s still a struggle. I’m constantly thinking things like “if I can just make it to next Tuesday then I can breathe” rather than thinking about how I can be productive or make things better for myself now. You made a good point about taking things small steps at a time, I tend to stress about everything I’m NOT doing instead of the little things I could be doing now. Definitely some good advice I’ll be taking with me going forward—thank you! I loved that feminine vs masculine energy part btw, SO cool to learn about.
that thought pattern is so ubiquitous with anxiety. it's almost like we're giving ourselves a finish line or a deadline- i would feel that way when i had way too much on my plate. i think a big lesson for me through that was learning what was realistic for me, my breaking point, and starting to celebrate the tiny wins even though it felt kinda dumb to make a "big deal" out of something that was as small as finally doing laundry but it really helped
I’m trying to get better at listening to myself and my body and feel what I need to feel moment to moment. As a fellow Aries (how we all doing this season) I’ve been being extra self critical, especially since we’ve been in a pandemic for over a year now. My brain has had extra time to overthink every little thing, and I’m trying to find a way to give myself grace and unlearn my perfectionism tendencies (if anyone has any tips PLEASE help a girl out 🙏). Sending you and everyone else here love as we try to get better every day 💞
working on a full video for perfectionism!! i think talking to yourself like you would talk to your best friends is a really helpful tool you can start using instantly. whenever you find yourself being self critical, pretend like it's your friend that is confiding in you. how would you respond to them?
I’ve actually been trying to build a good vibes playlist on Spotify to start the day with to manifest a positive energy and mindset.
Would love for anyone to throw me some song suggestions that fit.
Same! I started mine off with A Calf Born in Winter by Khraungbin and went from there. Some Jungle, Tycho, Vulfpeck...Live Well by Palace is good too!
Thanks! Here’s the playlist I’ve got so far. It’s a work in progress haha
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5dA56GN5ssXxppeUoHKkcW?si=ZgfmBhYMTR-nOJNw0HEzmg
I like to make themed playlists in my spare time so feel free to check out my Spotify profile for a bunch of others
ooooh, i think Sauce by Ella Mai gets me in a good mood.
if it's about positive mindset, i would suggest stuff like Good Days by SZA or some Kehlani?
Thanks! Here’s the playlist I’ve got so far. It’s a work in progress haha. Sauce didn’t quite fit the vibe I was going for, but it was perfect for one of my other playlists!
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5dA56GN5ssXxppeUoHKkcW?si=ZgfmBhYMTR-nOJNw0HEzmg
I like to make themed playlists in my spare time so feel free to check out my Spotify profile for a bunch of others I’ve done
I’ve been very anxious on how the future’s going to be and this month’s challenge is very timely. It’s always been difficult for me to go with the flow but I’m so excited to finally try this and to tap more on my feminine energy. Rooting for everyone! 💛
1. Vienna has been on my replay playlist lately as well. 2. My life has felt very out of control so I try to take control of the small things I can because some major things in my life are out of my control. Also trying to accept that idea of being out of control is key for me
Yes! Vienna has been a repeat for me these past few weeks as well <3
The universe is confirming my decision today. Decided to take the day off from any work and just go with the flow of the day. Have no plans, I'm still in my pjs, and I'm overall enjoying myself. 100% with you on this month's practice.
BASK IN IT!
I'm loving the corner project already and this is only the beginning!! Best investment I've made in a while, loving this space 💕
Oh my gosh I so needed this today. Work ended up giving me work to do without telling me it’s due Wednesday and I’m like freaking out and upset that this happened. However, I just need to go with the flow and get it done.
I have a habit of living my life wading in the waters of "wounded feminine" energy. I crave the structure that comes from masculine energy, the logic & the thoughtful. But perhaps what I am truly craving is living an authentic "feminine energy" vs the wounded that has been the undercurrent. I feel like this has been the "understanding of self" and path of emotional/spiritual growth I have been on.
i would love to hear more if you're comfortable with sharing. i'm not too familiar with wounded feminine, maybe where i come from is the wounded masculine
I love sharing.. I tend to overshare because I crave vulnerability so much and want to lead with compassion. I grew up in a tricky household (not dysfunctional but tricky-words I found through therapy). My ego, which learns from that wounded part, leads me to think that others are consistently talking about me, that they are judging me, that I am not enough and if I don't "bring enough to the table" they wont love me. I struggle with thinking everything negative thing that happens is my fault even if it has nothing to do with me (spoiler it rarely does) but that lead to a lot of self hate and zero self worth. I have been doing a lot of work on that inner child and when I think about what she was lacking I understand what my ego is protecting. I had to learn/am learning that I am enough for no other reason than that I am enough for myself. I do not need to "prove" myself to anyone and it is no ones "job" in this world to love me but my own. I honestly spent 3 years really learning that and not just saying the words and willing them to be true but putting in concrete work so that I was making them true. I had to prove to myself that I loved myself and show up for myself through action. I was always waiting for others to teach me, or better yet, be something I could mimic. I think in finding my feminine energy I am learning what my voice sounds like, what healthy boundaries are and I don't see my kindness as being taken advantage of because I am learning to trust my instinct when I say "yes". When I started therapy it was because I was 30 and felt like I had no clue who I was and fuck if that wasn't for damn sure. I fall short but I understand what I am healing and I think that is such a big part of it. Really asking one selves "why/where am I broken?" and then working on giving that to oneself. ... told ya I overshare :)
https://sarahlewis.co/blog-posts/healing-balancing-masculine-feminine-within-us-energies-divine-wounded
I appreciate all this Megan. This is definitely one of the best things I've ever subscribed to. And the 70s aesthetic is amazing. From the style, free spirits, the badass muscle cars, rock 'n' roll, outlaw country, and the big ol' collars lol. But I'm definitely taking notes from these posts.
Love this! Made me think about how I go into making a decision and where my head might be at that point in time.
This seems like some sort of insanely happy coincidence, but I'm producing and directing a virtual showcase with my friend called "Grow as you Go" and it of course focuses on themes of 'going with the flow' (which is some of the literature we use promoting it). The whole thing is a chance for creatives to reflect on the past year spent in the pandemic by channeling that experience into whatever creative channel they like. I think the pandemic has made as all more accepting and understanding of change by literally shoving us into a time head first, fearless (iykyk) to a time where it was literally impossible to know what was going to happen next and we just had to learn to be okay with it, no other option.
It's funny you mentioned really resonating with the 70s because I've been resonating with the 70s/80s vibes right now, too? In fashion, in decor, in music, in everything. It's kind of crazy. Maybe we're all in tune with something bigger right now - how cool :)
Alsoooooo Silk Sonic is EV. RY. THING. Friggen incredible.
So happy to see you vibing and living intuitively and authentic to yourself. It's really been showing, especially in recent videos. It's insane how you can really just feel the comfort and genuineness through the screen. Love this for you!!!!!!
oooooh I just want to add that if absolutely anyone here is interested in being a part of this showcase, please head to our Instagram, @GrowAsWeGo21 ! We've got a Google Form where you can pop the details of what you'd like to share! Just putting it out there :)